Just how does a person arrive at an idea o

问题：

Just how does a person arrive at an idea of the kind of person that he is He develops this (1) of self through a gradual and complicated (2) which continues throughout life. The notion is an (3) that one establishes only with the help of others. (4) the elementary knowledge that one is short or tall is a comparative judgment that we cannot make (5) we have the opportunity to (6) ourselves with others. One’s idea of qualities which are harder to (7) is even more dependent upon other people’s ideas.

Whether one is intelligent, or stupid; attractive, or ugly; these and many other ideas of the self are (8) from the reactions of people with whom we (9) This process of (10) the nature of the self from the reaction of others has been labeled the "Looking-glass Self" by Cooley, who carefully analyzed this psychological (11) of self-discovery.

Just as the picture in the mirror gives an image of the physical self, (12) the perception of the reactions of others gives an image of the social self. We know, (13) , that we are good at certain things and not at others. This (14) came to us from the reactions of other persons, first our parents and then other individuals (15) in life. It should be remembered that, as other people’s reactions could be (16) and understood in more than one way, the looking-glass self with which the individual (17) may easily differ from the image others have actually formed of his (18) Clearly, it is our perception of the responses of others and not their (19) responses that (20) our self-image, and these perceptions are often not accurate.

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A. in brief

B. in effect

C. after all

D. for example