I think that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most
36 thing we ever give to each other is our attention (注意力). Especially if it’s
37 from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do
38 but receive them. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times
39 about it is even more important than understanding it.
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story, people often
40 to tell her that they once had something just
41 that happened to her. Her pain became a story about
42 . So, finally she stopped
43 to most people because she just felt too lonely. When we interrupt what someone is
44 to let them know that we understand, we
45 the focus of attention to ourselves. But if we just
46 , they know we care. Many people with cancer can talk about the relief (宽慰) of having someone just listen.
I have
47 learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. I
48 that passing a person a tissue (面巾纸) may be just another
49 to shut them down and take them out of their experience of
50 . Now I just listen. When they have
51 all they need to cry, they find me there with them.
Thi
s 52 thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very
53 . I thought people listened only
54 they were too shy to speak or did not know the
55 . A loving silence often has far more power to heal than words.
| 小题1: | | A．easy | B．important | C．stupid | D．terrible |
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| 小题3: | | A．anything | B．everything | C．something | D．nothing |
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| 小题4: | | A．worrying | B．complaining | C．caring | D．dreaming |
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| 小题5: | | A．decided | B．managed | C．preferred | D．interrupted |
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| 小题6: | | A．by | B．like | C．about | D．with |
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| 小题7: | | A．themselves | B．ourselves | C．himself | D．yourself |
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| 小题8: | | A．working | B．studying | C．talking | D．smiling |
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| 小题9: | | A．writing | B．saying | C．reading | D．copying |
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| 小题10: | | A．learn | B．stop | C．leave | D．move |
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| 小题11: | | A．smell | B．speak | C．listen | D．watch |
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| 小题12: | | A．even | B．hardly | C．early | D．never |
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| 小题13: | | A．explained | B．realized | C．expected | D．imagined |
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| 小题14: | | A．question | B．touch | C．love | D．way |
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| 小题15: | | A．regret | B．happiness | C．sadness | D．anger |
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| 小题16: | | A．cried | B．shouted | C．called | D．whispered |
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| 小题17: | | A．difficult | B．simple | C．funny | D．whole |
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| 小题18: | | A．old | B．tall | C．young | D．beautiful |
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| 小题19: | | A．if | B．but | C．or | D．because |
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| 小题20: | | A．plan | B．result | C．answer | D．award |
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