Years ago, a Southern woman was in one of my workshops. When asked to tell a story that
36 her character (品质), she described an
37 when she was 5. She was at her grandfather’s house
38 up in a beautiful white skirt and new gloves ,
39 as she could be.
Her grandfather told her she could go into the
40 and get herself a cookie. Next to the cookies was a pile of coins. Sure that no one was
41 , she took one of the coins, too.
When she
42 with her cookie, her grandfather asked her to show him her
43 . She held out only her left hand
44 , and he said, “Show me the other hand.” When she unwillingly did
45 , showing the coin, she saw
46 in her grandfather’s eyes.He paused a moment and then
47 her up, saying, “Darling, you can have anything in the world that I have, but it breaks my heart that you’d ever
48 it.” Some 50 years later, this story of how her grandfather gave her the gift of
49 still brought tears to her eyes.
Few things have as large an influence on
50 the values of a child as the strong pain of lovingly administered shame (羞愧). It helps judge right from wrong and gives a
51 emotional (感情的) dimension to moral (道德的) and character issues.
Kids, and adults for that matter, learn from their
52 . Parents, teachers and coworkers can remind them of their moral responsibilities without shaming or
53 them.
What we can’t do is just let
54 go, unless we want to send the message that’s okay. What we allow, we
55 . And we should never encourage anything other than moral excellence.
| 小题1: | | A．changed | B．affected | C．formed | D．built |
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| 小题2: | | A．occasion | B．adventure | C．accident | D．incident |
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| 小题3: | | A．put | B．brought | C．dressed | D．held |
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| 小题4: | | A．proud | B．patient | C．creative | D．absurd |
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| 小题5: | | A．restaurant | B．supermarket | C．kitchen | D．shop |
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| 小题6: | | A．looking | B．passing | C．following | D．listening |
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| 小题7: | | A．fled | B．returned | C．arrived | D．continued |
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| 小题8: | | A．hands | B．coins | C．cookies | D．gloves |
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| 小题9: | | A．quickly | B．politely | C．cautiously | D．suddenly |
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| 小题10: | | A．also | B．so | C．even | D．though |
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| 小题11: | | A．disappointment | B．surprise | C．excitement | D．pleasure |
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| 小题12: | | A．sent | B．called | C．took | D．hugged |
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| 小题13: | | A．possess | B．steal | C．hide | D．sell |
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| 小题14: | | A．confidence | B．determination | C．honesty | D．courage |
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| 小题15: | | A．shaping | B．judging | C．destroying | D．acquiring |
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| 小题16: | | A．different | B．similar | C．practical | D．powerful |
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| 小题17: | | A．experiences | B．mistakes | C．adventures | D．books |
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| 小题18: | | A．troubling | B．endangering | C．hurting | D．cheating |
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| 小题19: | | A．misbehaviors | B．faults | C．burdens | D．sufferings |
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| 小题20: | | A．encourage | B．agree | C．adjust | D．refuse |
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