After we meet people it is up to us to make them our friends．Let us stop a moment and consider what really makes a friend．The major qualities like faithfulness, devotion, friendly company, flash through our minds．But it is the large number of very small particular qualities that make up one’s whole character, such as cheerfulness, friendliness, and punctuality (守时).After all, “ to make a friend, be a friend” is not such a big and difficult order．There are particular favorable qualities, which attract others to us, and some elements which do have an effect on people in fundamental psychology(基础心理学) or not.
If you are in the presence of a shy person, talking and asking casual (随意的) questions may bring him out of his shell．Think of what would be most acceptable to the other person, for you to talk, or to listen．Either way the goal is to make yourself pleasant.
Always remember to listen, but listen intelligently．To have anyone “ hang on our words” is the most unnoticeably clever way in the world to please somebody．For a few extremely happy seconds we are the centre of attraction, but when it is our turn to be audience, let us remember how we felt as the actor, and let’s be genuinely (真正地) interested in what the other fellow is saying.
Other people will like us, if we like them．If you want friends, keep your mind and heart open to friendship．Be alive to the other person’s world.
小题1:This passage is mainly about_________________.
A．the ways of talking to a shy person
B．some favorable qualities to be a psychologist
C．how to make yourself attractive to your listeners
D．how to make a friend and be a friend小题2:The words “ bring him out of his shell” in this passage most probably means ____.
A．make him become active
B．make him feel more nervous
C．help him understand the question better
D．help him listen intelligently小题3:According to the passage, an important way in making friends is to ________.
A．attract them
B．be attracted
C．listen attentively
D．talk widely小题4:The words “ Be alive to” in the last sentence of this passage most probably means________.
A．be aware of
B．keep with
C．deal with
D．be ignorant of
